Friday, November 17, 2017

OUR FIRST PLAYGROUP SESSION :)

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In my last post, I introduced you to KAMI Playgroup, a special playgroup that my friend and I started for children with autism. Last Saturday (11th November), we had our very first playgroup session, which was attended by 10 parents and 8 children. Here's a breakdown of the activities we conducted:

1. Introduction
To begin our session, I gave a brief introduction to the team behind KAMI, and explained the playgroup's objectives and guidelines. This was folowed by a brief welcome address by Puan Salmah and a doa session led by Teacher Ami from Excel Qhalif.

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2. Music and movement
As a warm up, we did our first music & movement activities while sitting down. We sang Heads, Shoulders, Knees and Toes, and One Little Finger.

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For the second part of the music and movement activity, we got on our feet and danced to the popular Baby Shark Doo Doo song.

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3. Indoor play (Gross motor) - Bean Bag Pass
This was followed by our first gross motor activity for the day, which was Bean Bag Pass. We sat in a circle and tossed bean bags to the friend on our right. Then, we were teamed up in pairs and tossed bean bags to the person sitting opposite us. This gross motor activity is aimed at preparing the body, before we prepare the mind with table tasks.

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4. Table Task (Fine Motor) - The Coin Drop
For our first table task, we did The Coin Drop, which is a fine motor activity. The children took turns to pick up plastic coins from a tray and drop them into a jar. Parents assisted by prompting and encouraging their children.

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5. Arts and Crafts - Apple Collage
Our final activity for the day was arts and crafts. The children tore their coloured paper, with help from mum and dad, and pasted the paper pieces onto the apple template given. This activity encourages fine motor skill, focus on a task, joint attention and also sensory stimulation to different textures (paper and glue).

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6. Closing 
Once everyone was finished with their arts and crafts activity, we cleaned up together and sang the Goodbye Song.

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My son Arif with his father working on their apple collage.
Did Arif like it?
In the beginning, Arif didn't want to join in the activities. He preferred instead to explore the space. It wasn't until he heard the Baby Shark song that he came into the activity room and stuck around. He was a bit resistant at first to the gross motor activities like Bean Bag Pass, but he really enjoyed the table tasks, like The Coin Drop and collage.

What will KAMI Playgroup be up to next week? Stay tuned!





You can help!
Interested to find out more about KAMI Playgroup @ Masjid Kg Tunku, volunteer or make a donation?  Please don't hesitate to drop me an email at adline76@yahoo.co.uk.

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

The Launch of KAMI, a special playgroup for Children with Autism @ Masjid Kg Tunku, Petaling Jaya

In an earlier post, I mentioned a community project that I was working on, and I'm happy to announce that it was launched two weeks ago on 4th November 2017! 😤 It gives me great pleasure to introduce - KAMI Playgroup!

KAMI, which means "us" in Malay, stands for  Kumpulan Anak Autisme Masjid (roughly translated to "The Mosque's Children with Autism Group"). It's the brainchild of my friend Hasniyati, who works with Masjid Kg Tunku and is a mum to an autistic child. She got the idea to start a playgroup for children with autism, after hearing an radio interview by En Adli Yahya, the founder of Autism Cafe Project (ACP).

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Our Special Guest, En Adli Yahya, presenting a speech to the mosque's committee members at our launch. Arif sat quietly for a few minutes, and then made his mission to explore the area, especially the sink behind the podium.

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Pn Salmah giving her opening address at the launch.

With support from the Mosque's Head of the Education Bureau, Pn Salmah, Hasni started to find ways to bring the playgroup together. However, things didn't go so smoothly, as she had no one to assist her. Thankfully, fate brought us together and I volunteered to help her with the playgroup.

I did some research and put together a working paper for the project, as well as suggested the types of activities that we could do. After my first meeting with Pn Salmah and Hasni, we decided to just go ahead and get the ball rolling. In the words of Nike - JUST DO IT!

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Teacher Alma, who runs Fun Factory (the mosque's kindergarden), very kindly agreed to let us use their space and equipment on Saturdays.
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Not long after we set a date for the launch of this project, Hasni received a message from Excel Qhalif. They were willing to lend us one of their teachers cum occupational therapists for two months, so that we can learn from her hands-on experience. Alhamdulillah! 

And when I announced the upcoming launch of our playgroup on my FB page, En Adli messaged me to say that he would like to be part of it. Alhamdulillah!  So I wasted no time in inviting him, his son Luqman and the ACP team to our launch as our Special Guests. Things were starting to fall into place, like a beautiful puzzle 💙

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Chairs all set up, waiting for guests to arrive. Fun Factory also has two classrooms that we will use for our the activities.

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Our itinerary for the launch and Committee Members.

During my brief speech at the launch, I spoke about why this playgroup is so important:

1. Mosques can play a vital role in supporting people with autism and their families.
2. Children with autism need a safe and understanding place where they can learn through play and try new things without being judged for their unique characteristics and behaviours.
3. Play can help in the development of skills that can be a challenge for children with autism, such as: gross motor, fine motor, socialising, communication, cognitive, flexibility, emotional regulation and self confidence.
4. It enables autism parents to get to know each other and learn how to engage with their children through play activities. 

Currently, our playgroup caters to 8-10 families, with children aged between 2 and a half to 9 years old. Alongside the children with autism, their neurotypical siblings also take part in the activities, which run for about an hour. If the children aren't able to, or don't want to take part, they're free to play with their parents in the play area, where we prepare open-ended toys for them to occupy themselves. And whenever they feel like joining the group activity, they can.

Our playgroup is a pilot project that will run for 6 months, during which we hope that we can prove to the Mosque's Committee that we can do it, and that it is beneficial for all the families involved. There is a lot for us to learn, particularly through experience and this will help us to grow and improve. We need all the support we can get to make this a success and to keep it going :) Please send us your prayers and positive vibes guys!

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En Adli talking to En Selamat, the Mosque's Nazir, and Pn Salmah after the launch.

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Arif and his friends having fun exploring the Fun Factory's indoor play area :)

You can help!
Interested to find out more about KAMI Playgroup @ Masjid Kg Tunku, volunteer or make a donation?  Please don't hesitate to drop me an email at adline76@yahoo.co.uk. Stay tuned for more updates on KAMI Playgroup!

Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Play ideas for parents of young children with autism by Intan Miranti

Last Saturday, I had the pleasure of taking part in a workshop conducted by none other than Intan Miranti, founder of ANDI Intitiave. During my early stages of autism fact finding, I had came across her name several times, and grew to admire her due to her dedication as an autism parent and the work that she does to help others.

She is a very busy lady, so when I learnt she would be holding a workshop at Sprouts Kids, I jumped at the chance! The icing on the cake was that the workshop would be on play ideas, something that I really want to learn about, not just for Arif, but for a community project that I'm working on.

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With our trainer Intan Miranti, an inspiring autism parent who I've always wanted to meet :)

Here's a brief recap on the awesome 3-hour session we shared with Intan:

* All pictures are by me and used with permission from ANDI Initiative.

Intan began by explaining the importance of play for children with autism and how we, as parents, can utilise play as a means of achieving specific goals. Parents of young children with autism (like me) need to come up with activities that are both fun and therapeutic, but we often run out of ideas on how to play and engage with our child. The key is to be creative, resourceful and flexible.

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Intan shows us how to set up a simple obstacle course.

Using items that can easily be found in shops or that we may already have at home, Intan showed us how to get the most out of play activities and modify them to meet our child's level and needs. Among the purpose of play modification is to minimise the child's frustration and give him a sense of triumph.

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We can use simple toys and household items but employ different strategies on how to use them.

Parents must also modify activities to fit the goal they've set for the session, for example -  gross motor/ fine motor/ vestibular/ proprioceptive exercise, to encourage communication or just to bond and have fun. As grown ups, Intan explains, we've forgotten how to play and think like a child. So we must try and put ourselves in our child's shoes to get a feel of how they might experience the play session.

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For older children who can take instructions, Intan showed us other strategies for play that will encourage children to pay attention to the other person playing with them.

She also recommends recording our play interactions with our children, so that we can see for ourselves how we interact with them. More often than not, Intan says, utism parents (especially of of non-verbal children) tend to over compensate by talking too much during a play session.

We must exercise restraint and caution, because if we give too many instructions or ask too many questions, we may end up frustrating our child. Instead, we must strive to give comments in the form of parallel talking or self talking. This requires practise.


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Card games like Go Fish can be valuable in teaching autistic kids about communication. Arif is too young for this activity, but I will certainly keep this in mind for the future.

While compliance is an important part of play sessions, Intan cautions parents about creating scenarios that compel our autistic children to always comply and agree to an activity. We do not want to raise "parent pleasers" who later become "people pleasers." These children are often unhappy on the inside and lack self confidence. It's a fine line. We want our children to do as they're told and most children want to please their parents, but they should not be fearful of not meeting expectations and be frustrated that they have no choice.   

Overall, we had a fun-filled and action-packed session, with ample opportunities for parents to ask questions and contribute ideas. Alhamdulillah, I took away many lessons that day and I hope to put my new-found knowledge to good use.

I look forward to attending more workshops and training sessions by Intan Miranti, one of which is coming up on Sunday, 12th November at Permata Kurnia, KL. She will be speaking about another topic that's close to my heart - homeschooling!

PS: Thanks for dropping by my blog today, but before you go, check this out:

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During our break, we had delicious nasi lemak made by Autism Cafe Project Malaysia.

And if you'd like to find out more Intan's work and ANDI Initiative, please visit:


Tuesday, October 24, 2017

Spectrum Awareness Campaign @ We Rock The Spectrum, Ara Damansara

Hi guys, things have been a little hectic around here, due to a leakage problem that forced us to renovate our entire master bathroom. But still, we've managed to pack in some fun. Today I'd like to share with you a special event I attended on October 14th, the Spectrum Awareness Campaign at We Rock The Spectrum (WRTS), Ara Damansara.

My Saturday morning began with a very special meeting at our local mosque (will tell you guys more about this later) and after that we took the boys to WRTS, where I took part in two workshops and met some awesome people.

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The first workshop was conducted by Sherrene Teh, who is a music therapist. To be honest, this was the first time that I had heard about music therapy and the session really opened my eyes. I think it's important for parents to attend these types of workshops because it helps us to better understand the brain and how it works, as well as the benefits of different types of therapies. The word of the day, for me, was "neuroplasticity."

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Sherrene Teh, Music Therapist from Oasis Place.


The second session, on Calming, Organising and Alerting Activities for ASD Children, was conducted by Joanna Hutt, a paediatric physiotherapist and Programme Director at The Energy Source. Joanna demonstrated many practical, easy and fun activities that we can do at home with our kids, using simple equipment. I simply loved the session and learned a lot from it.

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Demos by Joanna Hutt from The Energy Source.

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I also met two inspiring autism parents, who set up booths at the event :)

Many booths were set up as part of the campaign, but I could only visit them for a little while, because I was busy attending workshops and looking after Arif. But still, I managed to meet a couple of amazing people, including Siti of ARISMA and Fred and Andi of ANDI Initiative.

They both really inspire me, because they're not only dedicated parents who do the best for their children, but they also work hard to help other autism families. I aspire to be like them :)

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Amir conducting impromptu storytelling.

While I was busy meeting autism heroes, my kids were busy having fun. Amir, my eldest, may be 13, he's still very much a kid at heart and he loves to play (perhaps a little too much). He did me proud by staging an impromptu puppet show for the little ones.

And of course, I did a bit of shopping for Arif's home activities. Here's my haul from some of the booths. I got some puzzles (from Moms and Tots Shoppe), t-shirts for my boys (from Andi Initiative) and some water beads, a sensory bottle and stress balls.

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Illustrations are by Andi Miranti, do check out his Ned Dickens comics :) 

We stayed till the late afternoon and had loads of fun! Looking forward to more fantastic events like this! The next time We Rock The Spectrum organises an event like this guys, you've got to check it out because you can learn a whole lot and meet lots of people who can help you better understand the autism journey. Follow their FB page or Instagram for the latest happenings.

Sending love and positive energy out into the world... till next time guys, thanks for dropping by!

Friday, October 6, 2017

Fun with Shaving Cream: Sensory Play

I want to let you in on a secret... I love messy sensory play as much as Arif does! And playing with shaving cream has got to be one of our favourite sensory activities. For one thing, it's fun and as a mum, I am happy to say that it's 'clean.' By this, I mean there's hardly any mess and the residue is easily washed off!

There are several ways you can play with shaving cream, but this time round, we decided to give Arif's dinosaurs a foam bath :) Though it all seems like child's play, to me it's significant that Arif can play with shaving cream, because in the past, he hated touching anything that was wet and sticky. Over time, however, therapies have helped him to feel more at ease with these textures.

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All that we needed was a large tray, some dinosaurs, shaving cream and a sponge. The sponge is there so that Arif can clean off the dinos.

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The sponge is also handy for applying the foam onto your hair!


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I also used the shaving foam to attract Arif's attention to my face and encourage him to make eye contact. I would dab some on my nose, cheeks and forehead, and he would look at me puzzled :)

If your kids haven't tried playing with shaving cream, give it a go! It also makes a good play date/ group activity, like you see below:


While shaving cream is fun already on its own, you can always flex those creative muscles and add a bit more interest. Here are some suggestions from Simple Fun For Kids :)

Thursday, October 5, 2017

MasterChef Australia Season 9 Winner Diana Chan’s Homecoming Celebration of a Lifetime

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I'm a MasterChef Australia fan, including Junior MasterChef Australia, so you can imagine how  thrilled I was that a Malaysian has won Season 9! Diana Chan, born in Sitiawan, Perak and raised in Johor Bahru, Malaysia, is now hailed as a national culinary hero and it's well deserved.

Last month, she did Malaysia proud by winning the popular culinary competition reality TV series and bagging the grand prize of AUD250,000 (RM834,000) in cash. The 29 year old accountant overcame countless grueling challenges and won out over 23 other aspiring amateur cooks.

Her epic three-month journey, broadcast on Lifetime, saw her garner a strong Malaysian fan-base, thanks to her cool, collected and versatile approach in the kitchen, and for spotlighting the varied and wonderful flavours of Malaysia.

And now, for the first time since her nail-biting victory, Diana is set for a triumphant homecoming to Malaysia. To share the joy of her achievement, Diana is meeting her fans in Kuala Lumpur! You can catch Diana in person too at a special appearance that's open to the public.

She'll share her amazing experiences from the competition and answer all fan questions, along with a special live cooking demonstration of one of her signature dishes. MasterChef Asia Malaysian finalists, Jasbir Kaur and Marcus Low will also be part of the celebrations, and will be cooking live at the event!

If you want to catch this culinary experience of a Lifetime, here are the details:

Date: Saturday, 7 October 2017
Time: 12pm – 6pm; Diana’s appearance from 3pm – 5pm
Venue: South Court (Ground Floor) |Mid Valley Megamall
Lingkaran Syed Putra, Mid Valley City, 59200 Kuala Lumpur, Wilayah Persekutuan Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

Can't make it? Don't fret! The event will also be streamed on Facebook Live by @LifetimeAsia to enable as many fans as possible to join in the fun of Diana’s homecoming!
https://www.facebook.com/LifetimeAsia/

You can also relive Diana’s triumphant journey with the best of MasterChef Australia Season 9 from 14 Oct – 4 Nov 2017, Saturdays, 12pm on Lifetime (Astro Ch 709).

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The smile of a culinary champion! You go Diana!

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

AM Santai Workshop: Home Occupational Therapy Series @ We Rock The Spectrum

As an autism parent, one of the things that I'm constantly working on is empowering myself with knowledge on how to best help my son (and myself). Sometimes, for one reason or another, I can't rely too much on external services to cater to my son's needs. So rather than feel helpless and clueless, I'd rather do something about it. 

I was elated, therefore, when I learnt that Autisme Malaysia was organising a 3-part workshop on home occupational therapy at Arif's favourite kids' gym - We Rock The Spectrum (WRTS), Ara Damansara. WRTS was an excellent venue  for the workshop, as it enabled families to bring their kids along. For example, mum would be in the workshop and dad would be playing with the kids. But some participants, including myself, left our families at home. For me, personally, this was a rare "me time" incident :)

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Group photo with fellow participants. Image courtesy of WRTS.

The workshop was conducted by Puan Zuraini Abd Karim, Senior Occupational Therapist at Prince Court Medical Centre. I feel she was great choice for this workshop, as she shared many valuable lessons and insights. It's also clear that she has a wealth of experience in this field and a deep understanding, compassion and passion for autism therapy and parenting.

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Week 1
During the first week, she addressed the challenges of raising an autistic child, the issues our children are facing and how to understand them, as well as what can be done to help them. Throughout this first session, I found myself constantly nodding my head in agreement, because so much of what was said resonated within me.

It was almost like she wasn't just an occupational therapist. She was a psychologist too. It felt good to hear her address matters that had been plaguing the back of my mind. It felt good to have someone validate my fears, concerns and frustrations. She gets it.

Though I'm still quite new to autism parenting, I've become all too familiar with people who "don't get it." So when I come across someone who gets it, I'm just so grateful :) All too often, autism parents can feel completely alone in their journey and struggles, but being in this workshop, a welcoming, nurturing and understanding environment, is good for the soul. 

Armed with many pages of wonderful notes, I returned home inspired and encouraged. I couldn't wait for week 2!

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Theory before practice - Puan Zuraini giving us a fast-paced intro to autism and the importance of occupational therapy.

Week 2
In the second session, Puan Zuraini addressed the abstract concepts that help explain the autism brain, how it works and how to help autistic kids cope better with their environment. She then introduced us to the basic framework of her 45-minute therapy session, which we would learn to do at home with our kids. The idea, she explains, is to get the body and brain ready for learning (I love this!).

Her approach combines a variety of exercises, like gross motor, vestibular, proprioceptive, rhythmic movement therapy, brain gym, fine motor and sensory play. She showed us a few ways to do these exercises using the materials that we may already have at home.

After the second session, some of us had lunch at Bijoex Restaurant, Damansara, which hosts Autism Cafe Project Malaysia on the weekends. I had the delicious Nasi Lemak Lobster and took home some roti jala for my husband. But the real treat was to meet the man with indomitable spirit who spearheaded this project, En Adli Yahya, his son Luqman and their friend Imran :)

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With friends at Bijoex Restaurant with Autism Cafe Project's Luqman and Imran. En Adli was our camera man :)
Image courtesy of En Adli Yahya of ACPM.

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The mouth-watering Lobster Nasi Lemak :) You have to try it for yourself!
Week 3
In our final session with Puan Zuraini, things were much more hands-on, as she showed us the types of games and activities that we can do with our kids both at home and with the gym equipment. The rule she says, is to follow gross motor/ vestibular activity with proprioceptive activity.

She also reminded us to keep making these activities more challenging for our kids, as to continually challenge and 'provoke' their response. As parents, we need to know if our child is overstimulated or understimulated, and we need to get them to a "just right" state. All these exercises may seem like child's play, but they are powerful, as they can help build pathways in the child's brain. After all, children learn through play, a concept that I hold near and dear to my heart.

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Our very hands-on trainer showing us how it's done.

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We also learned how to properly use the gym equipment to meet our children's specific needs.

With the new knowledge gained, participants left WRTS that day filled with ideas and perhaps still a few nagging questions on how to apply what we learnt over the next 6 weeks and beyond. Nevertheless, this workshop has been a wonderful experience for me, because I learnt many things and made many wonderful friends :)

If you were a participant in the workshop and are looking for ideas for gross motor, fine motor and brain gym exercises for your child, do visit my Pinterest pages for some ideas:

Therapeutic Activities: https://www.pinterest.com/adlineaghani/autism-therapy-home/
Brain gym exercises: https://www.pinterest.com/adlineaghani/autism-therapy-rmt-brain-gym/

Join Autisme Malaysia!

Besides registering for the workshop, I also seized the opportunity to become a registered member of Autisme Malaysia, a task that I had delayed for far too long. If you're an autism parent, do consider joining, as you'll be able to join AM Santai workshops organised by Autisme Malaysia at a discounted price. Since July this year, there have been six AM Santai sessions held at WRTS, covering various specific topics that have not been covered elsewhere.

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My membership card and workshop notes :)

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Birthday treat with a side of meltdown

Look at this spread... looks yummy doesn't it?

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Yesterday was my birthday and we celebrated it by ticking a few things off my to-do list. My husband took leave from work so that we could send Arif for a trial/ assessment at an inclusive kindergarden located in Denai Alam, which is quite a distance from where we live.

Alhamdulillah his four hours at the kindy went well (I'll write more about this in a separate post). And since he seemed calm after we picked him up, we thought we'd have lunch at Jaya One, PJ, where I needed to pick something up and wanted to check out services at The School, which is an enrichment mall.

We got to the mall, which we hadn't been to in a long while, and we basically got bewildered... because the layout of the place is a little haphazard. There were many restaurants and cafes there, but we finally settled on Tedboy Bakery. It was more quiet and we didn't want Arif to get annoyed by loud noises or crowds.

Thankfully, our lunch was utterly blissful. Arif sat quietly, watching YouTube Kids and munching on fries. I ate all the fried mushrooms you see above (those brown round things) and the fresh strawberry/ yogurt drink wasn't bad. I'm not too sure about the coleslaw though... because the dressing tasted like peanut butter. Don't get me wrong, I love peanut butter! But with cabbage, it just tasted kind of odd to me.

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I then had the Irish Lam Stew with Sourdough Bread. It's a light dish, but it was warming. But lunch wasn't the only treat I had :) I was happy to find out that my article has been published by Mummyfique, a Singapore-based parenting portal. Check it out...

My article in Mummyfique

You can read the full article here.

I'm quite proud of this article, because it's the first I've written about my experiences as an autism mum. Hopefully, I'll be able to learn more along my journey and share them with others, not only through this blog, but on other platforms too.

And now... about Arif's meltdown...

After our quiet lunch, I was supposed to pick something up from someone's office and visit The School to check out any enrichment centres that would be suitable for Arif. But we didn't make it...

We saw a play area and went closer to ask about their rates. When Arif realised what it was, he tried to climb out of the stroller. We couldn't take him to play, so we tried to leave. That's when his tantrum/ meltdown started.

It's hard to communicate to Arif that we would be back another time, because he has limited understanding of what we're saying. He's non verbal, so he can't express his frustrations. It may have started as a typical temper tantrum that grew out of anger and disappointment for not being able to play. But then it escalated into an epic meltdown.

It seemed like he had used up all his resources for self regulation... four hours at the kindy and another few hours in the car and restaurant... lots of new places and faces... the tiredness... it all caught up with him at once.

We made a break for the car... Arif kicking, screaming and wriggling, trying to get away from daddy's firm hold. Yep, to every onlooker, it seemed like we were torturing or kidnapping him (autism parents out there will be able to relate I'm sure *throwing Katniss Everdeen three-finger salute*).

When we got to the car, I insisted that my husband go and pick up the-thing-I-needed-to-get-picked-up on my behalf. I would handle Arif in the car. It was about 20 minutes of pure mayhem. My little one thrashed about so much, he ended up on the rear deck of the car. He then he thrashed onto the floor of the car, between the driver's seat and the back seat, and then he vaulted himself over to the driver's seat.

I had to use all my strength to get him back into the back seat, because the engine was running and I was worried that he might accidentally release the hand break, hit the gear stick or press on the gas pedal.

Finally, my husband appeared, and he slowly calmed down. This morning, I woke up with a sore neck and shoulders from struggling with my son.

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Every time he gets upset, it breaks my heart. So you can imagine how I feel each time he has a meltdown. But these days, my feeling of sadness and being overwhelmed have been replaced by a sense of calm. It's like riding a storm. And I guess you could say, by now I've numbed myself to it.

I understand why the meltdown happens and that it's not my fault or my son's. It's important for me to stay calm and to help him through it. At that point in time, he is in a fight or flight state, from which he cannot simply deescalate. 

But of course, meltdowns are something we need to extinguish as soon as possible. We need to help Arif reach a better state of self regulation and develop his ability to calm down. We also need to remember not to ask too much of our son. Perhaps the hectic pace of yesterday's activities were beyond his comfort zone. Maybe we pushed too hard. Lesson learnt, hopefully we can improve and grow from this, as we move forward in our autism journey.

PS: For more reads on autism meltdowns, here are a few good links I've found:



Thursday, September 7, 2017

Sticky Situation: Developing Fine Motor With Stickers

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Arif admiring his handiwork. He put some stickers on a monster during one of our home art classes.

When I was a kid, I loved stickers. I even used to collect them, though I didn't have much pocket money to spend on them. But guess what? I still love stickers to this day! And as an autism mum, I'm finding a new purpose for stickers - as an occupational therapy activity.

One of the ways to help children develop their fine motor skills is by using stickers. Kids love cute and eye-catching stickers and enjoy peeling them off and sticking them onto things. 

Besides helping them to develop fine motor skills, playing with stickers also encourages the ability to sit still and attend to a task. And believe me, for a mum of an autistic kid, getting your child to sit still is a challenge!

Today I'd like to share with you some stickers and a sticker book that I recently got for my son at Daiso. They retail for RM5.90 each.  

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Cute puffy animal stickers!

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Here's a look inside the sticker book.

And here's what you might find when you stroll along the sticker aisle in Daiso. So many to choose from!

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Cute stickers at Daiso

We use stickers when we're out and about too. Check out Arif enjoying his sticker book in his stroller.

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Reusable stickers and sticker books are cool too!


To end today's brief post, here's a word of advice - don't be too precious with those stickers. Your kid may not play with them properly (clumping them up or placing them upside down). They may even peel them off and throw them around. But don't let that hinder you. Just have fun! 

Welcome 2019: Time to Grow

Happy New Year everyone! I'm so so excited for 2019 and everything that it'll bring. I'm starting the year with gratefulness for...